say hello to the elephant

It’s all TOO  hard!

It can be bloody hard.

There are so many more things I could add here. For example;

Yes, it’s hard to lose weight.

Yes, it’s hard to find the time.

Yes, it’s hard if you’re in an unsupported relationship.

Yes, it’s hard to stop feeling so negative.

Yes, it’s hard to stretch the money out.

Yes, its hard to stay focused.

Yes, it’s hard to SAY HELLO TO THE ELEPHANT IN YOUR LIVING ROOM!

We all look at other people and think that they have it easier. Or they are luckier. But… I guarantee you, somewhere, someone is looking at you, thinking you have it easier or luckier than them. We are all on such different journeys, that what you are finding easy in your life, someone else is finding hard in theirs.

I do believe however that there is a common problem to “it” being hard. And that is, that if we don’t say HELLO to it, and embrace it, it will become an issue, and it will in some way make us “un-well”.  It may fester into a sickness or disease, we may turn to drugs &/or alcohol, or, we may comfort-eat our way to obesity.

What do you do when you find something is too hard?

What do I do?

Well…. a long time ago, during my marriage breakdown, I read a book called “Emotional Clearing” by John Ruskan. It taught me to express my emotions. It taught me that you need to have emotions, to cleanse, or clear, them.  So when things get hard for me, I say HELLO to it, and work through it by HAVING that emotion, the best I can, at that moment in my life.

Today, starting my first blog was hard. Really hard. I over analysed it, over researched it, avoided it, procrastinated with it, and then finally said… HELLO “fear of starting something the wrong way”, welcome to my living room (life).

Once I realized my ‘elephant’ was my fear of not doing this blog properly, and that fear was merely an emotion I was experiencing, and not relevant to physically typing at a computer – I sat down and typed. I sat down and said, this is scary, but let’s still do it, and do it feeling a little scared. Why not? Being scared about something is ok. It is the opposite of being confident about something. So, if I let myself feel scared and accept that feeling, I can’t wait to let myself feel confident and accept that feeling too. What goes up, must come down, and vice versa – right?

So, here’s what I want us to think about this week.  What do you do when it gets too hard?  What is it that is really stopping you? Fear? Pressure? Time management? Patience? Guilt? Whatever it is, just say Hello to it. Say Hello to that elephant, out loud. Look at it. Walk around it. Pat it.  Feel it. Hug it. Become friends with it. That’s all. You don’t have to do anything more than ‘embrace it’ this week. No planning. No goal setting. Just saying Hello to that elephant in your room when “it” gets too hard.

I’ll let you know what I found “too hard” in my life this week, and how I handled it. Feel free to let me know how you go.

Breathe in something beautiful

Cherlisa