say hello to the elephant

Hi all,

First of all sorry that my comments section isn’t working, I am on a very steep learning curve with my blog, FUN….. but, very steep!  The good news is that I did see your comments; they just came through to my private email instead.  So, fingers crossed I can get it to work properly on this post, because the comments were great!  And I also think it would be great for us to see and hear what other elephants are out there, and how someone else may have greeted the same elephant that you have standing in your living room!

Acknowledging that there is an elephant standing in your living room, is a very important step. It’s like an alcoholic admitting they are an alcoholic.

And from the feedback I received on my private emails from you, is that you have all been able to find, see, and feel that there is, indeed, elephant in your living room.  So, well done all, for acknowledging your elephants.  “Hello Elephants!”

Now for the HARD bit.

Naming your Elephant.

Doing this may take some time.

In some cases, it may mean your elephant will need to be wearing ‘layers’ of names. Once you’re ok with the ‘top layer/surface’ name, you can remove it, and go deeper, to the next name.

Then deeper, and deeper, until the elephant standing before you is the most powerful, stubborn, pivotally named elephant, for you, and your own personal enlightenment.

Ultimately, that elephant will end up with a name that is relevant to YOU. About YOUR part in letting that elephant appear in your living room.

Somewhere in your life, your choices, your beliefs, your fears, your phobia’s, your guilt’s, your sorrows, or your anxieties, have manifested into a situation, and now it wears so many layers, it’s a great big elephant.

Start at the top. Acknowledge the elephant (tick – you’ve done that), then name it with the first thing that comes to your mind. It may a “situation”, it may be someone’s name.

Then spend some time acknowledging your named elephant, send it love, be nice to it. Because really, who wants a raging elephant running rampant in your living room.  For the sake of all those around you, sharing your house, and/or your life, let’s keep the elephant as calm as possible. Be kind to it- because that elephant is you.

There will come a stage when you know you are ready to rename that elephant. You will know when you are ready. Trust your gut feeling – Your intuition. The Elephant won’t feel threatening anymore, but it will still be there, so it still needs to be dealt with.

This name may now start looking more like a “feeling” rather than a situation.  For example ‘Fear of……”.

This is where ‘things’ can start to surface. Things you didn’t realize. When I start to allow myself to acknowledge these feelings, I sometimes feel nauseas or dizzy. Sometimes I get quite upset/emotional, and other times I get excited, because I finally found the reason, or the name, for my elephant.

I like to talk, so I usually share my ‘self-discoveries’ with Matt, or my friends.  By getting it out of my mind, and out into the world, it really does help me make more sense of it.

If you’re not comfortable talking to anyone, write it down, journal it. It gets ‘it’ out. Out of you, and out into the universe. That way, someone, or something (spiritual), can pick it up and help you with it.  It’s true.

I know, because I have had some VERY big elephants in my living room, and I have survived them. They have moved on. And I believe that getting to the real name of my elephants, and releasing it to the world, shifted its power.

Now, go forth and start naming your elephants!

Keep me posted!

Talk soon!

Cherlisa